Whether you realize it or not, you are always working on something in your life. Your thoughts & emotions color those experiences in the intensity they are applied & then act as radar….bringing more of the same in your direction, often increasing the original intensity level. So it is vital to stay aware & in control of your emotions, thoughts & attitudes, as well as the outcomes you prefer. If not, you are sure to receive whatever your mind & emotions dictate... Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
This blog is the workshop for thoughtWARE Books. The series includes Help.....My Life is Killing Me - Lifestyle Change Made Easy, Beyond Disorderly Eating & Bingeing, Holistic Weight Loss , Sugar....the Hidden Eating Disorder, Nail Biting & Skin Picking & Small Change - The Power of Interactive Self-Hypnosis. At the present time I am seeking an agent and/or publisher.
FOCUS SUGAR & DISORDERLY EATING
I just finished a workshop on sugar addiction & disorderly eating & while I've been writing about this for many years, working with group hypnosis is always fascinating because of the subconscious mind multiplication effect that comes about when one mind encounters the others in a creative environment, especially when those people are addicted as this group was.
It's very exciting to work with people who have disorderly eating issues. They tend to be very different than those with eating disorders, such as anorexia & bulimia. Disorderly eaters & sugar addicts tend to fall through the cracks of researchers, especially when the individual is not obese. Physicans rarely check on the nutritional state of slender people or those who appear to be at normal weight. Even if the patient is over-weight or obese, the medical & emotional history taken by the physician is usually lacking.
Interest mounts when the killer diseases such as diabetes, heart disease & circulatory diseases are diagnosed. The opportunity to prevent the onset of these diseases & many more chronic diseases is sadly missed. Think about how much personal anguish could have been allievated if the disorderly eater or sugar addict truly understood where their momentary actions were heading & how they could be curtailed by managing their thoughts & emotions.
It's not that we don't know how many disorderly eaters abound. The statistics of disease tell us quite loudly. For example, 15.7 million Americans have diabetes. 5.4 million of these are not aware that they have the disease. About 798,000 people will be diagnosed this year. Think about this; 5.3 million of Americans between 6 & 17 are overweight. There are more than 11 million alcoholics in the USA alone. And this is just a small fraction of the statistics that connect to disorderly eating and/or addictions.
Obviously serious medical issues do not develop overnight, but are the outcomes of the moment to moment actions of the disorderly eaters & sugar addicts. You can find these people shopping in every supermarket & eating in every fast food restaurant. Perhaps they work with you or sit next to you in church. They are simply everywhere & all are in the process of developing a life threatening disease. It's a good idea to look in the mirror to make certain that one is not looking back at you.
INSIDE THE DISORDERLY EATER
Questions are vital to outing the disorderly eater & addict. The types of questions must be carefully designed so as to target the underlying problems. Then they can be removed hypnotically with hot desire motivational imagery designed for positive lifestyle change. The same can be accomplished through writing, keeping in mind that the book is not just a book, but a therapeutic tool for the reader. thoughtWARE books are written to achieve this, not just in the exercises, but in the flow of the writing.
Participants expect a hypnotherapist to have the answers they seek & preferably a magic wand to save them any work. This really isn't about laziness, but life disorder, for the disorder in eating issues is pervasive in all areas of life. An examination of the thoughts tell us that just about everything is difficult for these people. That can even include very small areas that need change such as eating vegetables or drinking water. This is one of the reasons why physicians don't get involved with helping in this regard. It's rather like dealing with an obstinate child who simply sets up roadblocks every inch of the way.
Most disorderly eaters need a multitude of lifestyle changes, but these must be addressed at the core & not on the surface. This means looking inward at the beliefs that are seen in the thoughts & corresponding emotions. The easiest & most economical way to get a handle on this huge problem is by integrating new knowledge & change utilizing the medical tool of interactive self-hypnosis. It is possible for a large percentage of the population to change through this type of approach.
WORKING THE INTERACTIVE PROGRAM
The four steps of this program are equally important, but the order of progression is also important. Disorderly eating is like any other disorder or mess, and we get out of this in the same way. First we wake up, and then we bring organization to all of the facets.
As mentioned earlier, disorderly eating rarely lives alone. When one area of a life is in disarray, you won’t have to look far to find another. Disorder and stress go hand in hand, bringing imbalance to the mind and body. Addictions become the easy answer for managing the discomfort. We can grow to like, even love them, and like other bad relationships, they can consume us. It is important to understand that while we may have genetic tendencies towards addictions, we do have choices in the matter. We can choose to stop.
Changing disorderly life patterns and addictions means giving up those dangerous relationships while managing stress in new ways. This is where most people make their mistake when looking to stop smoking, drinking, bingeing, etc. First order of business is to have a very good stress management program in place, one that includes the four steps of this program.
Managing emotions is key to managing addictions and disorder. From the time you were born, you have been developing your own brand of emotional-patterning. Some of the patterns have been heavily etched and are super-automatic. You may have mentored some of these from others, especially when you were very young and more sponge-like. At that time of life you absorbed everything, even if you didn't like it or agree to it. A good exercise is to become aware of what you dislike, or what annoys you about your parents or siblings, then look for those in yourself. You can do the same exercise with your significant other relationship, or your relationship with your children. Try the same mind game with your work relationships. They will be there as well. It's not uncommon to be blind to one's own patterns, as well as to the emotional states that automatically attach to them.
Once a negative pattern has been self-embedded, it must to be removed subconsciously. If not, the pattern will have a tendency to adhere to other experiences "in the moment" or even to future experiences.. Suppose you are thinking about meeting someone you know. You have a history of being annoyed with this person's idiosyncrasies. In your present thoughts, your emotional state crayons are already engaged, coloring your expectations. Even if that person isn't demonstrating the irksome traits in the real-time meeting, you will probably find yourself in your old programmed mind-state anyway, responding “as if” there were.
Let's work with a different future-paced example. Suppose you are going on vacation. On the last vacation you had difficulty adjusting to a non-working relaxed state, finding the vacation finished before you really began enjoying yourself. Even though your current vacation is not for some time, you are already anticipating this, probably playing it in the theater of your mind.
This is a special kind of mind program called a negative expectation. If you play this over and over, you will actually pre-program enhanced mind and body tension. Other negative emotions may choose to join in with their negative color crayons. The chances of an enjoyable vacation is becoming slimmer with each negative mind-etching.