You are invited to read excerpts from the upcoming book, thoughtWARE by Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht, Program Designer for Sarasota Medical & Sports Hypnosis & Joseph Bohorquez, M.D. The book is a composite of powerful Interactive Self-Hypnosis Imagery & Imaginology designed for Optimum Health & Performance
Most of us have the tendency towards impatience & intolerance, not wanting to take the time to look inside the problem, perhaps not even thinking that the answers may have been waiting right there all along.... Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
Help.....My Life is Killing Me! is a practical how to book focused on healing & managing out of control lives that are rapidly going towards chronic & killer diseases, as well as emotional breakdown. Follow along as I write this book, based on my decades of work with patients, employees, employers, as well as clients in my office & workshops....
Right now I'm working with Claire, a television executive with a myraid of issues & problems. You can read more about her in the earlier posts & archives.
A very detailed self-assessment work is necessary when looking to change your lifestyle behaviors that will lead you towards your preferred outcomes. The assessment has many facets & now we will be looking in detail at your family medical history, as well as your own personal medical & health self-care, just as if you opened a file drawer in a doctor's office. Only this file will have much more detailed information, as well as inner movies for you to study. The more you learn about yourself, your genetics & family-tendencies towards certain diseases & addictions, the better for your recovery & future health.
It's possible that you never thought about this area of your life before & this may be quite a revelation. Certain genetic diseases that run in families are linked to producing hormones that are connected to addictions, eating disorders, pre-disease states & stress issues that can interfere with cognitive functioning & mental wellness. Gaining knowledge & understanding these links can help you to better manage your own life. Some of those genetically linked disease include adult onset diabetes, reactive hypoglycemia, hypertension, circulatory disease, heart disease, hormonally related cancers, obesity & all addictions.
Keep in mind that your grandparents also had parents who gifted them with their genetics. It is possible to look back into your history & find those very tendencies that you experience in your life today. For our work here, we will only explore back to your grandparents & the specific tendencies towards diseases & addictions. It's important for you to know & to accept that these need to be managed in order for you to experience high level health & performance in all areas of your life.
CLAIRE: My family has lots of those diseases & I have a history of sugar addiction. It’s been getting worse over the years, & now at the age of 36 my cravings & decreased levels of concentration are so bad that by the middle of the afternoon I simply want to go to sleep. It’s like I’m drugged. Is this related to my family history or how I eat?
More than likely Claire is having an afternoon low blood sugar. Her family is positive for those diseases that lead to insulin over-production & resistance. If she has not been eating correctly for her genetic wallpaper, this is most likely what is going on. The good news is that she can change her outcomes if she chooses.
Many chemical changes go on inside your body. Some are related to food & some are not, but what you eat & drink will have an effect on what you feel. When the blood insulin levels are too high, there is a desire or craving for sugar foods. This is the body attempting to normalize itself. Sometimes the desire is for refined sugars & other times for the higher glycemic carbohydrates. When you answer the body with foods such as these your insulin levels will appear to normalize, but within a short time you are likely to feel another drop in blood sugar, & this time it may be even harder.
Genetics are not your fault, so no more hiding under rocks or blaming the past. You can now uncover this information, come to understand it & learn to benefit from it. There isn’t anything, genetic or otherwise that doesn’t have a benefit somewhere inside of it. Here you will uncover these jewels.
You might like to place this image in your journal, letting your subconscious mind know that this information is very important to you. The more attention you pay to something, the more the mind will bring more towards you..........good or bad. In this instance, it is good for the more you know, the better for you.
Think about your parents separately, reviewing what you know about their medical or addiction history. Did they have adult diabetes, circulatory disease, heart disease, high blood pressure, cancer, obesity, addictions including alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, sugar, food or anything else? Make notes about these or any other chronic disease states. How about emotional or mental health issues? Add these to your journal.
Next, move on to each grandparent on each side of your family, doing the same review. Perhaps you will think of something that is not mentioned above, but your subconscious mind tells you that it is important. Make a note of this as well. As you work deeper into this program you will find a place for that information.
Even if you don't know about your parents or grandparents, go through this exercise. Ask your subconscious mind to deliver this information to you. You may be surprised to find that some of it will come to your attention.
There are many reasons why you want to know about all of this. Not only is it connected to your own health, but that of your children. In addition, the pre-disease states or genetic wallpaper may be interfering with your own productivity. Such is the case with Claire. As she learns to manage her own genetic wallpaper, she will begin to feel better physically, as well as emotionally. The quality of her life & her future success depends on this...
This blog is the workshop for thoughtWARE Books. The series includes Help.....My Life is Killing Me - Lifestyle Change Made Easy, Beyond Disorderly Eating & Bingeing, Holistic Weight Loss , Sugar....the Hidden Addiction, Nail Biting & Skin Picking & Small Change - The Power of Interactive Self-Hypnosis. At the present time I am seeking an agent and/or publisher.
You don't have to look far to notice what a stressed out lives we lead. No wonder we prefer to hide out in some addiction or to just stay in the pram with our beads.... Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
Solving problems means being willing to have a good look & then to make changes. So where does all this stress originate? Some believe it is all about work. Others stick the blame on relationships or financial matters. For others, all would be well if the kids grew up & left home. All of these beliefs are correct, simply because they are believed, but they aren't the whole answer. Stress is accumulated throughout the day, even on a good day. It travels along with us, reaching out & touching every part of life & experience, attaching to every relationship & desired goal. A close look finds it connected to addictions, child & spousal abuse & a whole lot more. And yes, .....did I mention.....it can kill you.
If this is the case, then is there any hope for a decent quality of life & survival even if stress is high? Yes indeed, for well managed stress is connected to enhanced health, self-image, self-esteem, healthy relationships, prosperity, creativity & all of the good things of life. Now who wouldn't want that?
GET ME THE GOOD LIFE
Every client who visits my office or who attends a workshop wants to be saved from something. This is what I heard over & over again. "Oh what I wouldn't give for a fresh start!" Well, the good news is that fresh starts are available to us in each & every moment. While most of us don't need quite so many, they are there if we need them & there is no reason, whatsoever, not to take advantage of these wonderful opportunities.
In the practice of Interactive Self-Hypnosis we work with planting new beliefs, as well as active imagery that programs the subconscious mind for change. While some of this work appears simple on the surface, it is anything but that. I explain it to my clients like this. Suppose you were driving a car & saw something in the middle of the road. If you just move the steering wheel a half turn to the right, you won't hit it. If you don't turn the wheel, you will hit it. So is the half turn a small thing?
Here are some simple, but powerful new beliefs that help to change directions & outcomes. When practicing with simple affirmations such as these, relax deeply & see them on your mind screen.
I am always free to choose to stop doing what I am doing.
I am always free to choose to break old habits & patterns.
I am always free to chose to change anything & everything.
I am the writer, the producer & the director of my life.
If you truly want to manage stress at high levels & get the good things of life, you have to not only be willing to work at it, but you truly need to want it........that's called "hot desire."
Let's explore this a bit. Since all we have to do is to have the desire & then to act on our desire, why do many of us tend to ignore this gigantic opportunity? Why don't we turn the wheel of the care?
Take just a moment & let that question settle in your own subconscious mind. When you are ready, I'll give you some additional insights, but please don't rush your own personal work. As you begin to work with your own inner self, you will find that more answers coming to your own mind that will be very specific for you.
Here are some things I've noticed. Perhaps you have noticed them as well.
Most of us have excuses living on our tongues & for those of us who are tired of the excuse-life, it is often difficult to decide what to do instead of what we are doing & then how to actually begin.
We think about starting tomorrow, but tomorrow comes & goes & we find ourselves in the same old place.
We might wake up with good intentions, but then "life interrupts us" & despite our intentions, we fall back into old emotional patterns, beliefs, activities, choices, as if these were the only place to go.
Before we know it, we are at the end of the day & still "window shopping" in our mind, desiring things that we simply cannot grasp or for some reason , cannot hold on to for long, if at all.
And so, we tend to live in the land of good intentions & excuses, spending incredible energy on defending ourselves, our positions of inactivity or perceived failure & blaming others for stepping on our toes & our dreams. Most of this constitutes garbage.
Basically, we are all the same. We all have histories & baggage, desires & dreams. If you read or work with my programs, you will be doing many things differently from now on. Some of those things will be obvious & other's not so obvious. You will be consciously aware of some changes, but other changes will simply happen, as if they had a life of their own. You will find yourself replacing old emotional patterns, beliefs, activities & choices. Much of this will be effortless. You will no longer just window shop in life. You will actively choose what you want & act in accordance to make it yours.
I ask you to work with a Journal & a 3 ring binder. You can certainly download this blog or other areas on my websites that are designed for my clients & students. Remember all of my material is copyrighted & so you cannot reproduce it, but certainly you can copy this for you own benefit. Go through each part & highlight areas that speak out to you.
I'll be showing you how to work with these parts through a self-hypnotic tool called automatic writing. This will allow you to explore areas that interest you with your own subconscious mind inner coach. I'll also be providing you with self-development work based on different chapters of my books & also be suggesting CD/Audio programs that can assist you in working quicker & at higher levels, should you choose to do that.
I'll often introduce you to clients of mine & invite you to look over my shoulder as we work together to turn the wheel of the car.
I'm 38 years old & work in television production with a major network. I am over-weight & completely stressed out. I bite my nails & pull at my hair when I'm nervous. I've tried artificial nails, but I pick those off as well & so I spend quite a bit of energy hiding my hands as they are a true embarrassment to me, especially in my profession. Why can't I stop this? I know that I drink too much coffee, have a terrible diet & on weekends I find myself drinking too much.
I've thought about this & think it is because I'm trying to fit in all of my fun & relaxation on the weekend. I do feel entitled to this because I don't have a minute to myself during the week. I am married & have two school-age children who are already over-extended in activities, making my life even worse because of time constraints, but what's a Mom to do?
Here is the frightening part. I truly don't feel well physically. I'm fatigued just about all the time & have frequent headaches. I truly do not remember the last time I felt well. I had a medical check-up & the doctor told me that I am fine. I am not fine & not even near to fine. This frightens me even more than having a diagnosis of something. Is that strange or what? I went to counseling & found it useless because, despite everything, I'm a fairly happy & successful person. I have a good marriage & two great children. I'm just not well.
I don't know how to start or where to start. I'm like a "messy desk" that I don't seem to have time to straighten out because people, including myself, keep putting more things on it. I'm truly frightened that I will die from all of this stress & yet I can't seem to motivate myself out of this. My doctor offered me medications & I turned them down. I truly don't think that they will solve any of this. I see this as something I absolutely must do myself. I have many other aspects of myself to share, but don't know what it is that you need to know from me. Just know that I'm ready.
GET ME HOT DESIRE
As I look at Donna, it seems to me that her body is burning out from not getting what it needs. I'm impressed that despite being so busy & fatigued at the same time, she is willing to go right ahead with this work. This says MUCH about her & tells me that SHE WILL experience success, if her desire is "gut-felt" which I believe it is. Sometimes we need to truly get sick & tired before we are willing to become seriously involved with our own rehabilitation & self-growth.
This is usually my first important assessment factor when meeting a new patient/client in my office. I want to see & sense the desire. I want to sense if they want me to do the work OR if they are wanting to do the work themselves. In my experience, those who have HOT desire & truly want to do their own work, despite any & all obstacles, will be huge winners.
Those that are not willing usually have very different outcomes. So it is important for everyone working with me, assess themselves in their desire & in their willingness to do their own work & to do so consistently. This is not a magic fix, but true self-development work. It is like training for an Olympic Medal, only this is for winning your life back & keeping yourself out of trouble medically & emotionally.
Be sure to check out the entire archives for thoughtWARE. The link is in the right hand column. thoughtWARE is a series of books & CD programs written in Interactive Self-Hypnosis that will be ready for publication in the near future.